I once knew a girl...
who I was always excited to see. We had fun no matter what we did, never fought, and could talk for hours about nothing, or something, or a little of both. I wasn't good enough to hold on to her, and she left me. I'm over it, it was many years ago, but the fact that for the time that we were together we had a great relationship remains in my mind.
I hear a lot of things from people about my view on relationships. For the record, my view on relationships is that "Its not supposed to be hard, somewhere out there someone exists that will just fit me, and overall a person should make your life better and easier."
I feel this way because I know that its true. I hear all too often how relationships are supposed to be hard work and compromises. Why? and if that is true, who the heck would want to deal with it? Why would I want to be in a relationship with someone who expects me to change to make the relationship work? That would be like buying a DVD player, and then having to buy the lazer sensor, spinner motor, and dive door separately before it would work. Man, I want my DVD player to work "out of the box", don't you?
I blog this today, because 2 comments were made to me over the last couple days that irked me a little.
One friend said "You really need to come to my show on Saturday, I have a feeling that some day you'll be saying, 'hey, if I didn't come to your show, I wouldn't be married and happy!'"
First off, about 2% of the married people I know are actually happy. The rest are constantly bitching about how they can't do what they want, and their wives spend their money. Secondly, I'm sure that I won't meet someone that makes me happy in a bar, because *gasp* big daddy don't drink. Thirdly, and this is a big thirdly, I AM indeed quite happy in my life. Its a simple life, and I haven't met a person who has had anything to offer it to make it better.
A guy at the gym made a similar comment about marriage. It seems like people think that marriage is step 12 in some program. That its the end of a path, the point at which your life should change, the point that we should all be working towards. I disagree.
I don't care how many people tell me I'm wrong, or how many people tell me that my hopes are too high, or ambitious. I've already had the good fortune of meeting at least 3 people that met my requirements. Mostly, I didn't really realize it at the time, but I know that they're out there.
Its saturday, and that means Quiznos, and then I'm going to do whatever I want, at my leisure.
Have a nice day.
I hear a lot of things from people about my view on relationships. For the record, my view on relationships is that "Its not supposed to be hard, somewhere out there someone exists that will just fit me, and overall a person should make your life better and easier."
I feel this way because I know that its true. I hear all too often how relationships are supposed to be hard work and compromises. Why? and if that is true, who the heck would want to deal with it? Why would I want to be in a relationship with someone who expects me to change to make the relationship work? That would be like buying a DVD player, and then having to buy the lazer sensor, spinner motor, and dive door separately before it would work. Man, I want my DVD player to work "out of the box", don't you?
I blog this today, because 2 comments were made to me over the last couple days that irked me a little.
One friend said "You really need to come to my show on Saturday, I have a feeling that some day you'll be saying, 'hey, if I didn't come to your show, I wouldn't be married and happy!'"
First off, about 2% of the married people I know are actually happy. The rest are constantly bitching about how they can't do what they want, and their wives spend their money. Secondly, I'm sure that I won't meet someone that makes me happy in a bar, because *gasp* big daddy don't drink. Thirdly, and this is a big thirdly, I AM indeed quite happy in my life. Its a simple life, and I haven't met a person who has had anything to offer it to make it better.
A guy at the gym made a similar comment about marriage. It seems like people think that marriage is step 12 in some program. That its the end of a path, the point at which your life should change, the point that we should all be working towards. I disagree.
I don't care how many people tell me I'm wrong, or how many people tell me that my hopes are too high, or ambitious. I've already had the good fortune of meeting at least 3 people that met my requirements. Mostly, I didn't really realize it at the time, but I know that they're out there.
Its saturday, and that means Quiznos, and then I'm going to do whatever I want, at my leisure.
Have a nice day.
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1 Comments:
At 10:30 AM ,
crazykarl7 said...
I don't think relationships are supposed to be hard, I think that because men and women communicate differently, they tend to be hard and need work. I also don't know if I agree with your DVD player analogy. Certinaly if a relationship is missing a laser sensor then you're right, it's not the right relationship.
My analogy would be more like, making it into the NFL playoffs as a 6 seed, traveling to Cinci, Indi, and Denver and winning the toughest games you can imagine (which would be the rough patches in the relationship) prepares you to easily dismantle an over-rated Seaducks team that hardly played a tough game all season.
It's great that you're happy and you shouldn't give that up. Once you find someone that makes you unhappy when they aren't around means you've found someone special. But even then, it's going to be work..because women are a little bit crazy.. ;-)
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